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8 things gay men need to start doing, immediately

Miami Winter Party 2015


There are many things that gay men need to stop doing, but instead of focusing on the negative, and perhaps the things we either can’t change, or are out of our control, it’s time to embrace the things we can do to make our lives a whole lot better. These are just a few of the things gay men need to start doing, immediately, to be healthier, more realistic, and to help build a better community.

  1. Be yourself. No matter what other people say, always stick to your ethics and morals. Never bend because of peer pressure. Be authentic, real, and true to you. Surround yourself with people and things that boost your self-confidence. You deserve it!
  2. Dress appropriately. As the years go by, you wardrobe should be saying bye-bye. While no one expects you to have a closet full of the latest and most expensive fashions, you should be dressing appropriately for your age, and your body type.
  3. Accept everyone. The LGBT community has be begging for equality rights for decades, and as those rights are slowly being granted, we are our own worst enemy of discrimination and racism within the gay community. Way too many gay men judge against each other because of their culture, skin colour, ethnic background, religion, clothing style, or other ridiculous reasons. We’re a diverse and colourful community; embrace it!
  4. Meet Mr. Right Now. Clearly holding out for Mr. Right hasn’t been working, so instead of waiting for your prince to come along, ask a few guys you already know, or guys you think maybe aren’t quite your type, out on a date. You’ll be surprised. At the least, you’ll make some new connections and get to know more about the other guys in your community.
  5. Quit slut shaming. Some people are more sexually active and have more sexual partners than you. There’s nothing wrong with that. For some people, sex is sacred, and for others, it’s pleasure. Each person has their own comfort level and express their sexuality in their own way.
  6. Get tested regularly. Knowing your status is incredibly important. Even if you don’t have a lot of sexual partners, or if you think you are in a monogamous relationship, you still need to protect yourself and stay on top of it. Partners cheat. You can’t look at someone and tell if they are HIV positive detectable. Your partner might not have been recently tested. Condoms aren’t always used.
  7. Put your phone away. If you’re out at a club, restaurant, or coffee shop, instead of staring at your phone, enjoy some real face time with real people. Put your phone on DND and into your pocket and try have a undistracted social experience, either with friends, or meeting new people. You’ll be amazed. It’ll be like experiencing the world pre-mobile. You’ll love it! #OldSchool
  8. Clean up your act. It’s time to put away the drugs and stop smoking. Both are completely unhealthy and turn-offs for most guys. Instead, get together with a hand-crafted cocktail or a nice bottle of wine. You’ll be a lot more classier.

What other ideas do you have that gay men need to start doing immediately, to improve themselves and the LGBT community. Leave your answers in the comment box below.

Gay Rights Champion Hillary Clinton Running for US President

One of the strongest global and American advocates for LGBT rights around the world launched her second campaign for the White House. Former First Lady, Senator, Secretary of State and new grandmother Hillary Clinton announced her intention to seek the highest office in the United States through a YouTube video that now seen more than two million hits.

Her video was marked by a diverse group of Americans including an African American couple, Hispanic individuals, and even a lesbian and gay couple.   The video aims to show a different side of Clinton who has been in the public eye for more than two decades. She stated “I am getting ready to do something too” and goes on to say that she’s getting ready to run for president.

Clinton suggests that Americans have fought their way back from tough economic times but that the  deck is still stacked for those at the top.   The gay rights champion argues that Americans need a advocate and she wants to that cheerleader.  She’s hitting the road this week heading to Iowa and New Hempire to win the votes of Democratic voters throughout the country.   The Clinton that the world sees today is transformed from the woman in the 2008 presidential election.  She knows her weaknesses and strengths and perhaps most importantly she’s a confident in who she is as a public figure.   Opponents may argue her policies but her standing as a global leader is solid.

Voters throughout the United States of America have a chance to elect a fighter who will fight for their issues, including equal rights for LGBT Americans.  While much progress has been made under President Obama, there remains much work to be done yet.   The Clinton campaign can count a San Francisco gay group “I’d bottom for Hilary” in their pocket.  The “Bottom for Hillary” group suggests that they are a powerful group of people who are willing to bottom for Hillary.  “She is a bad ass bitch.  She is the head bitch in charge.  She is the Ma’dammmmnn President”.

hilaryclinton2I’d bottom for Hillary

It should be intriguing to watch as the 2016 presidential race unfolds.  HomoCulture hopes that all citizens in the US will take time to reflect upon who will fight for equal rights for all as promised by their constitutional documents.

We are curious what you think about Clinton – do you support her for her commitment to gay rights?  Why or why not?  Will she become the first woman president?  Let us know your comments on Twitter by using the hashtags #homoculture and #hilary2016.

Indiana Enacts Legal Discrimination Against LGBT Customers

“No person in America should be afraid to walk down the street holding the hand of the person they love,” said US Barack Obama.   President Obama has arguably been one of the greatest allies in American history for the advancement of the rights of the LGBT community in the United States.    While the US purports to be a champion of the rights of the vulnerable and those who need freedom, every American still does not have the right to marry the person they love.    Laws still exist in the country that discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation.   Laws that give employers the right to fire LGBT people, laws that give the right for landlords to evict on the basis of sexuality and now America still passes new laws to find new ways to discriminate.   Here are a highlight of a two events this past week that show that the battle for equality is still active in the United States.

First of all, Indiana Governor Mike Pence signed legislation into law that would allow businesses to discriminate against gay customers in the name of religious freedom.   Perhaps Indiana legislators and Governor Pence forgot the meaning of the word freedom but allowing a group of people to discriminate against another group of people is not freedom.   If a business owner disagrees with one of their customers being gay then practice this belief in private.   Every citizen has the right to freedom of speech but they do not have the right to hate or the right to discriminate.   Many Conservatives throughout the United States are on the wrong side of history.   Celebrities including George Takei and CEOs across the country have been calling for a boycott of this state since this law was signed into law by Governor Pence.  Seattle and San Francisco Mayors have cancelled all public travel to the state as a stand against this discriminatory law.




Secondly, Arkansas presently considering a similar law that would restrict cities from creating their own localized protections for the gay community.    The Human Rights Campaign President Chad Griffin said of the Senate vote that passed this bill, “this bill is poison pill for jobs and investment in the state of Arkansas, and Governor Hutchinson has a duty to veto it”.

The Human Rights Campaign is the largest LGBT civil rights group in the United States and leading the charge for equal rights for every American citizen.   The United States has an opportunity seize this opportunity to show the world that they are truly leaders in the fight for human rights and freedom, not just in word but in action too.   Please support the Human Rights Campaign as they fight for equality for all.


Words can barely describe the utter disgust that many have felt by these laws and other actions recently but do not be discouraged but have hope.    Take your frustration and support organizations like the Human Rights Campaign.   Take your anger and show the world the love.

We are reminded everyday by the raw evil and tragic situations everyday but let your reaction to the fight for equality be one of love.

What is with this drag queen thing?

Alberta drag queen Carmen Dioxide

Drag queens are an integral part of every gay community. They play an important role, as gay rights advocates, entertainers, role-models, and influencers. If you have never been to a drag show, or if you’re only been to a few and don’t understand what it’s all about, you’re about to unlock the secrets to these incredible people!

“For me, drag is a performance art, no different than acting, singing, or getting on a stage to perform any other form of art,” said Alberta drag queen and competitor in the upcoming Alberta’s Next Drag Superstar, MacKenzie Royce, who goes by the drag name, Carmon Dioxide. “It combines makeup artistry, fashion, comedy, and acting all in one crazy character that I have created: Carmen Dioxide. She’s quirky, she’s ditsy, and she can drink you under the table any day!”

Drag means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Some view it as an extension of their personality; others, as an opportunity for fundraising; even still, some pursue it as an actual career.

With the explosion of RuPaul’s Drag Race, and perhaps more importantly, the coming forth of many community queens, many people have picked up this unique art form and done some insanely creative things with it.

Carmen Dioxide 2

“I think each drag queen brings something different to the stage, and whatever it is, it’s truly wonderful,” said Carmen Dioxide. “With all of these things being said I also think that it is important to differentiate between people who perform in drag, gender-fluid individuals, and trans individuals for several different reasons.”

“If we group people who are trans and people who perform in drag into one group, it gives people the idea that trans people are only dressing up for entertainment and attention,” said Carmen Dioxide. “This is not that case. Trans people have a truly individual lived experience in which their gender identity just not match the sex they were assigned at birth. It is not a choice. Performing in drag is.”

Furthermore, there is a widely held stereotype of guys who perform in drag, that this means that you want to be a woman. This is not the case. Drag performers are artists. They are creative and push the boundaries of what people call art every time they get up on stage.

“It takes time, money, and a great deal of courage to go out into the world with a wig, a pair of heels, and a pound of makeup on your face,” stated Carmen Dioxide point-blankly.

“By grouping people who are gender fluid and people who perform in drag together, we do a similar thing: we negate the individual and subjective experience of the gender fluid individuals in society who do not necessarily define themselves by gender,” explains Carmen Dioxide. “Instead they feel comfortable expressing themselves as both men and women, without a thought. Again, not a choice. In the same way that trans people deserve to be respected, understood, and accepted, so too do those who are gender fluid.

Essentially by grouping all of these unique people together it underminea the value of their personal, social, and all other categories of their identity.

“I am a male and I have always felt that way,” explains Carmen Dioxide. “I perform in drag for entertainment and to help my community raise money for some amazing causes. It’s not because I feel I am actually a different gender, nor is it a sexual fetish. It’s simply something I do. I feel comfortable dressing up like a woman, because I don’t think it is embarrassing to be a woman. I don’t see going to a drag show or performing in a drag show as any different than going to see a play or acting in a play – and neither should you.

Ultimately, no mater how an individual identifies with him or herself, each and every one of us deserve the respect that you would give any other individual in the world. is here to experience. But never, assume or pass judgment on someone for who they are or what they do simply because you did not take the time to ask the question.

BC Premier Christy Clark will not follow Alberta’s lead on gay-straight alliances

Christy Clark Pink Shirt DayBC Premier Christy Clark has proven once again that her commitment to helping to advance the rights of the LGBT community in her province has only been talk, not action.

Many in the gay community have been patiently waiting for her to fulfill her promises from her leadership campaign to be an advocate for the LGBT.   Many believed her but unfortunately her commitments haven’t been met with action.

Some LGBT leaders would argue that she has, in fact, done more against gay rights in BC than half of the actually anti-gay groups.

Her comments made to a BC radio station on Wednesday, March 11 did not help with changing this perception.

Clark said that BC will not follow Alberta’s lead in requesting schools to sanction gay-straight alliances between students to protect them from bullying and abuse.

These alliances are well-known to help foster understanding and more respect within school environments for students who are LGBT.

While Premier Clark suggested that BC’s anti-bullying program already has a strong stand against bullying on the basis of sexual identity, Clark suggested that BC does not need to do anything more.

“We’re trying to find a balance that way here in British Columbia and I would argue we lead the world in that in looking to create safe schools where there’s a real climate of inclusion for all kids, “said the BC Premier.

While the Premier and the BC Education Minister Peter Fassbender appear unwilling to do anything more to create safer schools for LGBT student, there remains a reality of bullying and struggle for gay and lesbian students.

New Democrat MLA Spencer Chandra-Herbert said that BC should go farther and implement the Alberta plan to create gay-straight alliances.

Chandra-Herbert has been a long advocate for protections in BC law for transgender peole throughout the province.

While the Premier may think that there needs to be no further action to protect gay students, a Vancouver teen’s online post this week showcases that challenges still exists for these students.

This young student online post shared his pain after telling his parents he is gay has gone viral on Wednesday. The fifteen-year-old is getting support from around the world after sharing his dad’s reaction to news he is gay.

The messages are hurtful, and have been shared thousands of times from his Tumblr page. “You embarrass me. I’m going to puke.This is worst than death.”

This young man needs to be supported and needs to know that he can go to school and feel safe.

It’s time for the Premier to put aside politics and marketing campaigns and take real action.

Conversation of ideas, matter – The LGBT+ Pedagogy paradox

The paradox of LGBT+ Pedagogy

Within the LGBT community, ideas matter. The LGBT community is the most diverse cultural grouping in the world, consisting of every religious, ethnic, and gender identity. In other words, LGBT people exist in every part of the world and depending on their lived experience, are unique.

You don’t have to go very far in the LGBT community to walk through a minefield of words and labels.  The word Queer has divergent opinions, sometimes seen as being politically correct, only to be challenged by someone as being right, wrong, good or bad. It isn’t unusual for gay elders to view the word queer as offensive, while many youth have embraced it. It is often difficult to build common understanding when our community at times uses words and labels as badges of honor or shields to shame.

There appears to be an invisible hierarchy of marginalization within the LGBT community, based on gender, ethnicity, religion and class. We would benefit by working together to address the root cause issues and challenges together, rather than working against each other.

For example, hosting a conference for the LGBT+ community can be difficult because words hold so much weight that is difficult to navigate the political correctness, yet there are so many conversations that could bring amazing ideas together. The era of AIDS brought the LGBT community together, caring for each other, and it was the first time where the men and women’s community came together. We have done this before.

Conversations with each other are a great starting place when we don’t understand the other person’s perspective. Whether it’s the use of pronouns to describe gender, the correct terminology for who is gay, whether the sequence of our acronyms are LGBT + or GLBT+, this list is endless.

Here is the paradox; words are socially constructed based on each humans lived experience and they are all equally valuable. However, our individual stories are what build our common understandings of each other, not words or labels. Next time you read something that provokes you, try having a conversation about it, and you may be pleasantly surprised how much you have in common.

Lets build on the stories and focus on the things that we have in common, like freedom to love, marriage, protest, adopt children, have access to LGBT+ sensitive health care, seniors care and the list goes on. Lets listen to each other and in turn will elevate us all up.

“You are not listening, unless you are willing to change your mind” ~ Guy Nasmyth

Gay-straight alliances – safety over ideology

Mayor Naheed Nenshi

While the United States continues to battle for equal rights throughout all of their 50 states, the most conservative province in Canada, Alberta, is in the middle of a battle to protect gay-straight alliances (GSA) in their schools.   These clubs provides a chance for LGBT students in schools to gather in a safe place with a teacher sponsor and straight classmates.   It is well known that suicide rates among gay and lesbian teenagers are much higher than their straight counterparts however, GSAs provide a much needed safe space.

The fall of 2014 saw two different bills before the Alberta Legislative Assembly that aimed to protect the rights of youth to form school clubs. To the relief of many throughout the province the Alberta Premier Jim Prentice put a pause to the debate in order to allow for more public consultation.   Calgary Mayor Naheed Nenshi characterized the debate as “damaging” and “hateful”. Mayor Nenshi was critical of this debate in the provincial legislative assembly as it’s about saving the lives of young students throughout the province.   He said that he believed that this debate reinforced negative stereotypes of Alberta and his city. The 2 term Mayor suggested that these clubs were about the safety of students.

While the consultations are being undertaken at this time, Pride Calgary called upon the provincial government on Thursday to protect GSAs in all Alberta schools. “They make a tangible difference in the lives of a group of young people who are at heightened risk for suicide,” said Pride Calgary President Stephen Wright.

Wright’s group is encouraging political leaders, media leaders and everyone in the province to purchase a t-shirts from Pride Calgary to show their support for these youth. All proceeds from every t-shirt sold will help fund the expansion of the Gay-Straight Alliance Network through the Calgary Sexual Health Centre.

Often individuals from outside of Alberta believe that Alberta is a conservative province in Canada that isn’t accepting when the reality is the opposite.   Wright concluded that “it’s important to remember we’re equal and valuable, no matter who we love”.

Political leaders everywhere must never forget that arguing over social ideologies is not going to save the life of a teen who is yearning to be accepted.   Perhaps the social discourse in Alberta and throughout North America can be focused on how we ensure every single young people knows that they are valued and they do matter.

Las Vegas – Wedding Capital of the World

The view of the Las Vegas strip from the Stratosphere Hotel

Las Vegas is known as the wedding captain of the world. Vegas is expected to become the hot spot for same sex marriages in the United States. As the United States approaches the Supreme Court decision in June, Vegas should expect an increasing number of marriages and fabulous bacholar parties in the city. While New Oreleans remains a popular spot for straight couples, Vegas is an increasing hot spot for gay couples.

The wedding chapel in the Stratosphere HotelVegas is full of hot gay nightclubs, cheap luxury hotel rooms, exceptionally good food and cocktails, sexy pool parties, plus a range of fabulously over the top things to do in the city.   Weddings are always a celebration of two people and their love with all of those who they care deeply about. Consider Las Vegas as a fantastic location for a meaningful celebration of gay couples love and commitment to one another.

The wedding chapel at the Stratosphere Hotel in Las Vegas

One of the most popular gay marriage chapels in the Sin City is the Stratosphere Hotel that promises breathtaking views of the the Las Vegas strip and the entire valley. The Chapel in the Clouds is one of the highest wedding venues in Vegas, located 1,149 feet high above the Vegas. The hotel promises to have you floating in the air while you say your wedding vows.

Catered dinners in the private dining rooms with spectacular views in the Stratosphere Hotel in Las Vegas

The Stratosphere has private dining areas, with, as you would expect in Las Vegas, an amazing assortment of top-quality food and full-service bars. You can even head up to the rooftop to see if you are brave enough to go on some of the rides that will launch and dangle you from the highest points in Las Vegas.

The rides on top of the Stratosphere Hotel in Las Vegas If marriage rights are granted to all Americans in June by the US Supreme Court then Vegas will arguementably be the hottest city in the world for gay weddings and bacholar parties.

Lets go have a fabulous time together in the city that never sleeps.

Alabama court decides to delay overturn of gay marriage ban

Congresswomen Patricia Todd

The wheels of history continue throughout the United States of America.   While the 2016 presidential cycle begins to rapidly ramp up, the road towards marriage equality for all Americans is also moving forward.

Despite the LGBT community rejoices in the presidential declaration last week that marriage is a civil right for all Americans, the fight continues.   The state of Alabama began the process to appeal the overturning of the state’s ban on same sex marriage.  As a Canadian and I have access to all the rights I’d ever want and even enjoyed the right to marry for more than a decade now. I am utterly frustrated that the United States has yet to fully live up to its passion for freedom and liberty for all. The state has requested a delay on the 11th circuit ruling until the US Supreme Court rules in late June on the legality of marriage rights for all.

Two women in Anniston, Alabama went forward to the county courthouse trying to obtain a marriage license but Probate Judge Alice Martin said they were refused.

Meanwhile two men attempted to marry in Jefferson Country in Birmingham but were also denied. State Congresswomen Patricia Todd said on Facebook over the weekend that she will not stand by and allow legislators to talk about “family values” when they have affairs. Go Rep. Todd! While this fight for rights continues, so does the fight for many to publicly come out and be who they truly are.

A recent TED talk by Morgana Bailey courageously talks about why her silence for 16 years has personal, professional and societal impacts.   Bailey discusses in front of a crowd of her coworkers what it meant to hide who she was and fear the judgment of others.

The goal of the gay rights movement is to see all those within the LGBT community be treated equally in every country, every community and every neighborhood.   While much progress has been seen in recent decades, the genuine fight for this goal around the world still rages on.   The fight can seem daunting but think today about how you can spread more kindness and more love is this world then go from there.

Be an “Ellen” wherever you are!

7 Reasons to Volunteer in the LGBT Community


When most people think of volunteering, their visions may include soup line-ups, political organizing, sporting events, road-side trash programs and church or community events. While these are true and real ways to volunteer, there are many other areas where the gay community needs your help. Most LGBT communities are built on the foundations of non-profits. Whether it is for LGBT health, social services, housing, food programs, community outreach, and queer film festivals, there is a non-profit within an arms reach you could volunteer for.

Some stereotypes particularly about gay men being wealthy and having disposable incomes, affect our own communities perceptions of realty when it comes to poverty. Many in our LGBT community live below the poverty line and access food banks. Other people volunteer for organizations that work with LGBT refugees. In a world of competing interests, here are 7 reasons to volunteer for the LGBT community.

  1. It feels good and it is sexy
  2. You meet great people with shared values
  3. It keeps reality in check and reminds us of our blessings
  4. It’s a great way to show employers that you give back and you care
  5. Expertise is needed on boards and on committees to keep our community strong
  6. Not for profit organizations are one of the back bones of our LGBT community
  7. It creates legacies of caring for each other and models the way

Many people like the idea of volunteering but don’t know where to start. It can seem overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. Consider what things you care about, whether it is poverty, healthcare access, anti-bullying campaigns, seniors or youth programs. There will be a relevant non-profit in your community you can volunteer for. Most have applications and it’s helpful to get clear about why you care in advance and how much time and the types of services you can offer. The most important pieces to volunteering is getting clear about what can you commit to and then following through. The rest just makes you feel great.

5 ways to give back to the LGBT community in 2015

Ways to give back to the GLBT community in 2015

It is quite easy to get overwhelmed in everyday life, that sometimes we overlook ways to give back to the LGBT community and charity in general. In fact, there are so many world events that can make a person shutter. There are times when you have to wonder if there are any ways to make a difference and add to a more peaceful world and gain fulfillment in your life at the same time. The answer is yes.

Margaret Mead said it best, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”

Due to our hectic lives, not everyone can give time for volunteering, or some cannot afford to donate but here are 5 easy ways to give back in 2015 that you can incorporate into your life.

  1. Volunteering your time to a local not-for-profit
  2. Donate money to organizations that are aligned with your values
  3. Offer your experience in areas where you can offer special expertise and knowledge
  4. Participate in non-profit focus groups or workshops
  5. Attend LGBT fundraising events

Giving is living and provides significant strength to the LGBT community with strong organizations. Whether they are organizations that support LGBT youth, seniors, refugees, health initiatives, social services, housing, etc., our strength is measured by how we care for the most vulnerable in our LGBT communities. In 2015, please think of making a contribution in one of the five ways to give back. Its that simple.

16 reasons why the Grey Cup parade is just like a Gay Pride parade

Colourful costumes at the Grey Cup Parade

No, this isn’t the Vancouver gay pride parade; it’s the 2014 Grey Cup Festival parade.

A parade, is a parade, is a parade, right? Pretty much. Each year, Vancouver plays host to the largest outdoor parade in Western Canada, the Vancouver gay pride parade. This year it was Vancouver’s turn to play host to the Grey Cup parade. While these may seem to be very different events, in fact, they have a lot of things in common.

Celebrating diversity at the Grey Cup parade

Celebrating diversity at the Grey Cup parade

1. Celebrating Pride:While the Vancouver gay pride parade is celebrating diversity and equal rights of all Canadians, the Grey Cup parade celebrates the pride all Canadians have for the largest annual sporting event in Canada, and all the Canadian CFL teams.

2014 Grey Cup parade in Vancouver, BC

2. Everyone cheers for their favourite team: Everyone has a team they prefer.

2014 Grey Cup parade in Vancouver, BC


A BC Lions fan in the 2014 Grey Cup parade3. Over-the-top outfits: From drag queens to short shorts, face paint to creative team costumes, everyone gets into the spirit to show their pride. A lot of time, thought and effort goes into these outfits, right down to the smallest detail.

4. Rainbow of colour: The more colour, the better. Everyone wants to show off their pride by wearing the brightest colours of the team their cheer for.

5. Hangovers: It’s hard to say who can drink more, a Grey Cup fan or a the gays. One thing is for sure, when it comes to parade day, they will be hung-over from partying and celebrating the night before.

6. Everyone is welcome: No matter what your age, race, belief, or team you root for, everyone is welcome and encouraged to come out and celebrate the activities.

The Vancouver Police Department motorcycle brigade in the Vancouver gay pride parade.

A police motorcade starts off the annual Vancouver gay pride parade.

7. Police escorts: Every parade needs to start off with a police escort to ge the party started!

8. Uniforms: Yes, there will be men and women in uniform. Enough said!

Everyone is welcome to attend the Vancouver gay pride parade

9. Culture: From First Nations to minority groups, it’s important to have representation from all communities. Showcasing inclusion is an important part of every parade.

Vancouver gay pride parade

10. There will be song and dance: From pipe bands to top 40 music, there will be music blasting from almost every parade entry. People will be singing and dancing in the streets as they get into the festivities.

11. Grand Marshal: A parade wouldn’t be a parade without a Grand Marshal!

Vancouver gay pride parade12. No distance is to far: Massive groups of friends get together and travel from all points from across Canada to come and celebrate.

13. The parade is just the start: Whether you’re at the Vancouver gay pride parade or the Grey Cup parade, there are still so many other activities to participate in, from the street festivals to parties in the local bars, to mingling in the streets.

14. Traditions should never be messed with: Everyone has their own annual traditions. From who they go to the parade with, to the location they watch the parade from. If you do it one year, you do it every year onward, for good luck, or course!

Mr. Flame at the 2014 Grey Cup parade in Vancouver, BC

Mr. Flame at the 2014 Grey Cup parade in Vancouver, BC

15. There’s always at least one flamer in the crowd: While there might be a few more flamers at the Vancouver gay pride parade, it doesn’t mean that they don’t exist at the Grey Cup parade too.

16. It’s a celebration: No matter what team you cheer for, everyone is here for a good time. You will undoubtedly make new friends, learn some new facts about other teams, and might find yourself curious to learn more about a team you aren’t on.

Exploring Bisexuality

Fiertre Montreal Pride Parade 2013

In the LGBT community, bisexuals are still misunderstood by some. There are people that don’t believe in bisexuality—to them, you like one or the other, not both. Sadly, there are people within the LGBT community that are just as closed off to the idea of bisexuality. They can be downright cruel to those who claim to love both genders, as if there is something wrong with that, which there isn’t.

The Kinsey Scale, developed by Alfred Kinsey, also known as the Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale, places people at various points between completely heterosexual, and completely homosexual—with bisexuality being in the middle. There are also more points on either side, but those three are the major pinpoints. Not all bisexuals are created equal. Two men can be bisexual, but one may favor a particular gender more than the other, while still liking both. Also just as possible is having a man/woman who likes both genders equally—meaning they don’t prefer one sex over another.

This leads to the question: why is it so important to place people in cookie-cutter categories? You can’t. An example—a man can claim to be entirely heterosexual, yet he occasionally receives blowjobs from a male friend in secret. So, in reality, he is not purely heterosexual; but it also doesn’t mean he’s gay. This is why the Kinsey Scale is so useful.

Instead of judging someone because you think bisexuality makes no sense—try thinking on the matter. If you are gay, you didn’t choose to be that way. And you know you can’t change. Why is it so hard to believe that some people are born liking both genders? It’s the same situation, only slightly different.

Where would you fall on the Kinsey Scale? Completely Heterosexual? Completely Homosexual? Bisexual? Or what about one of the smaller pinpoints that lay in between the big three? Are you a straight guy that has a girlfriend, but secretly masturbates to gay porn on occasion? Are you gay, but sometimes find yourself in bed with a man and a woman? Nothing in life is quite that simple, and sexual orientation is no exception.

Do gay’s still fall in love?

Two gay men kissingEveryone is different, and everyone has his or her own story. Our experiences make us the people who we are. Some good; some bad. Life is life. There are real and fake versions of love and every relationship isn’t perfect.

No matter how jaded they may be, don’t let them bring you down. Love is real and it does happen. There are people that will be there to bring you up, even in your lowest moment.

Will the right person find you? Don’t go searching for them. Let it happen naturally. You can’t force it. It will never work. You’d have better luck throwing change into a water fountain and hope for a dolphin to jump in your lap.

While not everyone has found love, they still believe in love, that that it self, is promising.

Of course, there are good and bad sides of falling in love. It can hurt. However, when you find that one special person, who finishes your sentences, encourage you to be your best, and help you in your time of need, then you know it’s true love. You’re one of the lucky ones!

It’s not always the looks of a model, millions of dollars, or whatever drives your emotional mind. The real love is when you can talk on the phone with someone, without saying a word, be absolutely content and enjoying the feeling. It’s at that moment you have found someone you are comfortable falling asleep with, your head on their chest, arm-in-arm.

Yes, gays really do fall in love. If it hasn’t happened to you yet, be patient. Your time will come.

Top 10 most challenging places to fuck this fall

Corn Maze

Sex can get routine and boring, real quick, real fast. Why not put you and some of your friends up for the ultimate fucking challenge. Here are the top 10 most challenging places to fuck this fall. How many of them will you be able to conquer?

  1. Corn maze at a family farm
  2. Drug store washroom
  3. In the center of a clothes rack at Target
  4. In a park wearing Halloween costumes
  5. The washroom at your best friends housewarming party
  6. In the back of a car at a drive-in movie
  7. Tucked away in a dark corner of a haunted house
  8. Miley Cyrus concert, because there’s nothing else to fucking do!
  9. After the traditional Sunday night dinner at your parents house
  10. In the Christmas tree aisle at Costco!

Is there a noteworthy place you’ve fucked this fall? Leave your story in the comments section below!

LGBT History Month Cocktail (Cosmopolitan) [Contest]

LGBT History Month Cocktail (Cosmopolitan)First celebrated in 1994, when high school teacher, Rodney Wilson, brought together a group of individuals and organizations to pay tribute to the history of gay rights and civil rights movements. The group, which included the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), selected October to align with National Coming Out Day on October 11.

National Coming Out Day was founded in 1988, to commemorate the first march in Washington, D.C., in 1979, where gay, lesbian and bisexuals marched for equal rights. Today, the day is celebrated with rallies, information sessions, local events, and parades across the United States.

LGBT History Month encourages honesty and openness about being lesbian, gay, bixsexual, or transgendered. On June 2, 2000, President Bill Clinton declared June 2000, Gay & Lesbian Pride Month, and President Barack Obama declared June 2009 as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Pride Month.

Widely celebrated across the United States, LGBT History Month is an important event to remember the struggles the gay community has faced, and serves as a reminder of the work that must continue to ensure equality, rights, and freedoms for all in the United States, and across the globe.

Canada does not officially celebrate LGBT History Month, however, it is observed. In the United Kingdom, LGBT History Month is recognized in February, which coincides with the abolition of Section 28 in 2005.

In honour of LGBT History Month, raise a glass of one of the most gay-friendly cocktails, the Cosmopolitan, and pay tribute to those who have stood up for equality, rights and freedoms, and take a personal pledge to do your part to ensure equality for all.

  • 2 oz Stolichnaya Vodka
  • ½ oz Triple Sec
  • ¾ oz Cranberry Juice
  • ½ oz Fresh Lime Juice

Fill a cocktail shaker half full of ice. Add all ingredients. Shake for 20 seconds, until the shaker begins to frost. Strain into a chilled martini glass. Garnish with a fresh orange peel twist.

Enter for a chance to win a Stolichnaya Vodka prize package including a Stoli Pride tshirt and barware


In honour of LGBT History Month, Stolichnaya Vodka, who is a big supporter of the LGBT community around the world, is giving HomoCulture.ca readers the opportunity to win a cool Stoli prize-package, including a Stoli Pride t-shirt and barware package.

To enter, leave a comment on this blog post, pledging what you will do to support LGBT equality.

For an additional entry, once you have left a comment on this blog post, tweet the following:

Learn about #LGBT History Month from @br_webb & @StoliCAN, and you could win a #Stoli prize pkg: http://bit.ly/1rT0W8w #HomoCultureHistory

Contest closes at 5:00pm PST, Friday, October 10, 2014. One random drawn winner will be announced on this blog post on or before Monday, October 13, 2014. Read the complete contest rules.

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This contest is now closed.

Congratulations Alexis Marcoux, you are the lucky winner of a Stoli Canada prize package from Homoculture.ca.

Thank you to everyone who entered by sharing on Facebook, twitter, and subscribing to HomoCulture.ca. Please keep watching for more contests coming soon.

Take a stand for change

LA Pride Parade

Bullying. Hatred. Racism. Sexism. Homophobia. These are struggles that many people in the LGBT community face every single day. Many gay individuals have battled with these issues, tormented with fear and sadness, just because they are gay.

In a recent video, Kristen touches on several issues that she has personally dealt with, similar issues that youth today face. Change takes time, and it can be scary for some people, but at some point, we need to turn the page and start a new chapter in history.

As a results of change, people are going to have to swallow their pride. Many of these people will be long gone, but there is a new generation who are teaching their children to be kind, accepting, diplomatic, open, and understanding.

We should be encouraging others to grow and develop to a more accepting society. Not just in the LGBT community, but all communities. We are all responsible to foster a world of love and tolerance, and to help others in their time of need.

The Human Rights Campaign (HRC), is an important organization working in the United States to help with the LGBT rights movement. While some progress has been made, there is still a lot of work that needs to be done, especially in the United States. Canada, and many other countries around the world, set prime examples of how equal rights should be, for all people, regardless or race, sex, religion, sexual orientation, creed, etc.

Suicide is the second leading cause of death amongst youth ages 10-24, LGBT youth are four times more likely to commit suicide, and questioning youth as high as three times more likely, compared to their heterosexual peers. Suicide is never the answer, but many youth are driven to that point because they haven’t had a positive network of friends, peers, and even resources to help them through their difficult time.

Everyone has a story. Some people have shared their story earlier than others. For those that are capable of sharing their story can help by showing today’s youth that they are not alone, and never will be, as long as they are in a safe, loving and trusted environment.

“Nothing will work unless you do.” – Maya Angelou

Your 30s are not your 20s: how to excel in this new phase

IMG_6483_smIf your 20s are the time to party hard, live large, and have an amazing time, your 30s are the time to start settling down and taking a longer term view of life. That doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy your 30s every bit as much as you did your 20s, but it does mean that your definition of fun may start to shift to better accommodate the things you need to do to be successful in this new phase of your life.

The first thing that you have to face in your 30s is your finances. A few people hit the big 3-0 with no debt to their name, but for most of us, it’s time to get our financial affairs in order. Pay down debt, be careful with your money, get a budget in place that you can live with, and make sure you’re saving for your retirement. You may have spent your 20s thinking you can do it later; later is now.

Next step? Get your health in order. Take care of your skin, your hair, your body. Get exercising, if you don’t already. Moderate the excesses of your 20s. Have a drink, party now and then, but expect that your body isn’t going to tolerate it, if you keep rocking the house down every single night. The thing about bodies is that they break down slowly, and over time. Slow and stop that process by taking care of yourself before the damage is there.

After that, build your family of choice. Don’t allow people in your life who don’t add value to your world. If they don’t respect and love you, stop tolerating their behavior. But the people who are worth it? Be good to them. Enjoy them, keep them close, and build those relationships.

Find focus. Your 20s are about exploration, about sampling everything; in your 30s, find your passion, and delve deep. It may be something you’ve been doing since you were a kid, or it may be something brand new, but it’s time to really put some roots into the thing that fills your heart with joy.

And finally, be kind to yourself. People are awful to themselves for many different reasons. In your 20s, it’s often possible to ignore it and keep going; for a lot of people, these sorts of issues come to a head in their 30s. Breathe through it, and make sure that you’re living your life in a way you’ll respect and be proud of when you hit 40.



10 Celebrities You Didn’t Know Were Gay

Johnathan Bennett shirtlessIt seems that even today the world is shocked when a celebrity comes out. The gossip tabloids go crazy, it makes news headlines, and twitter lights up like fireworks. It’s become an almost daily or weekly occurrence of a celebrity coming out. Here are 10 celebrities you didn’t know were gay:

Bryan Singer: Bryan has been around writing and directing major films for almost 20 years.  He has been the driving force behind such productions as Superman, The Apt Pupil, Valkyrie as well as the X-Men series.  Singer was also the director for select episodes of the TV drama HOUSE as well as Football Wives.

Raven- Symone: Raven has been a star since pretty much the beginning!  She starred in several successful television series including “Hangin’ with Mr. Cooper”, “The Cosby Show”, and “That’s so Raven”.  Also had roles in the popular movies “Dr. Dolittle as well as the second version of the series.  Raven has dabbled in pretty much everything.  Acting, singing, modeling and dancing.

Victor Garber: A true veteran in the acting world.  Victor has been in enough films to make us all lose count.  Roles in “Legally Blond”, “Titanic”, “First Wives Club” and “Argo” are some of the more notable.  Victor has been a very active contributing actor as well as a singer and his works span the spectrum.  Is is the epitome of a diverse artist.

Johnathan Bennett: Known for popular works such as “Mean Girls”, “Dukes of Hazzard” and a laundry list of other films and television production. Johnathan has definitely put in some hard work and paid his dues to Hollywood.  Still at only 32 years of age it is certain we can continue to expect more great things.

Sir Ian McKellen: Six Laurence Olivier Awards, a Tony Award, a Golden Globe Award, a Screen Actors Guild Award, a BIF Award, two Saturn Awards, four Drama Desk Awards and  two Critics’ Choice Awards. He has also received two Academy Award nominations, four BAFTA nominations and five Emmy Award nominations.  Widely known as one of the most talented British actor to have ever read a script.

David Hyde Pierce: Does anybody remember Frasier?  David was brilliant in the amazingly successful series of 90’s.  He has four Emmy awards to show for it.  Not too shabby.  David came out publicly in 2007 but his presence in film and television has been there since 1987.  Maybe not always the headlining name of the bill but should not be forgotten.  A truly classic star.

Kelly McGillis: With Golden Globe and BAFTA nominations, works in film and television nothing will ever top my memory of her role as “Charlie” in a quiet movie called “Top Gun”.  A somewhat epic love seen with a small time actor that goes by the name of Tom Cruise has got to be one of the most memorable scenes of the past few decades.  Either way this woman has made amazing contributions to her art and shows no signs of slowing up anytime soon.

Nathan Lane: Theatre, television, film, humanitarian work and awesome-ness. All things that can be associated with Nathan.  He has done it all not to mention doing it all as good if not better than anybody else as well.  An amazing man with amazing talent.  Nathan’s career has spanned almost four decades.  And if there were ever a question of greatness, there is only one word you need to know: “Birdcage”.

Cynthia Nixon: Do you need a lawyer?  The character of Miranda in the television series and movies “Sex in the City” was brought to life by this lovely woman.  Along with plenty of other roles throughout her career including work in “Marvin’s Room, “ER” and “Hannibal” Cynthia has built a family and is happily married, a mother and a cancer survivor.

Cary Grant: Grant’s career began in theatre in 1922 and went all the way up to 1966.  He was the definition of a “Hollywood Legend”.  Grant was married five time and was the father of one daughter.  Cary passed away in 1982 in Davenport, Iowa at the age of 82.  He is absolutely one of the first legends of the screen without a doubt.

Stolichnaya Vodka becomes proud sponsor of World Pride 2014 [Contest]

Stolichnaya Vodka Bottles

Gays love to drink their vodka-cran drinks! It’s one of the most widely consumed vodka beverages in the gay community. What better way to celebrate Pride Month and World Pride 2014 in Toronto than with fun and creative cocktails! This year, World Pride 2014 is pleased to announce a new partnership with Stolichnaya vodka, which will be proudly served at official events throughout the ten-day festival and celebration.

Let’s get one thing gay, Stolichnaya is not Russian vodka. The Stolichnaya vodka brand has a proud history dating back to the Czar Empire, was one of the first commercial vodkas in the world, and has won medals in spirit competitions around the world. Today, Stoli vodka is respected as a world-class premium vodka.

Today, Stolichnaya vodka is owned by SPI Group, also known as Spirit Group. Since 1991, SPI Group has owned right to produce, distribute and market Stolichnaya vodka around the world, excluding Russia. SPI Group is not allowed to import any Stolichnaya vodka into Russia. In fact, the controlling shareholder of SPI Group, Yuri Scheffler, is exiled from Russia. As of January 1, 2014, Stoli USA was created, when SPI took control of distribution and marketing in the United States, and in Canada, the contract was recently awarded to Mark Anthony Group.

A rainbow of Stoli vodka cocktails

SPI Group is responsible for the entire process of vodka production of Stolichnaya vodka from grain to glass. With full transparency, the company admits some ingredients, including the grain, which has been sourced from the same Russian-based farm for over 80 years, continues to this day. However, every step in the production process, including blending, filtering, bottling and shipping, right through to distribution is 100% owned and controlled by SPI Group.

SPI Group and Stolichnaya vodka have always been, and continues to be, a supporter of the LGBT community. The equal-opportunity employer supports gay pride events, festivals and events around the world, including Stoli Man, and now World Pride in Toronto. Stoli and SPI Group will continue to support other LGBT causes and events around the world; giving back to the community they truly believe in.

Prism World 2014


HomoCulture.ca and Stolichnaya Vodka want to send you and guest to the Prism World during World Pride in Toronto. Enter now for a chance to win a pair of weekend passes to Prism World including Collage, Bootcamp, Aqua Mega T-Dance, Main Event, Peep Show and Revival. These tickets have been sold out for months! Each ticket is valued at over $275!

To enter, leave a comment on this blog post on your favourite Stoli vodka cocktail.

For an additional entry, once you leave a comment on this blog post, tweet the following:

Hey @br_webb I’m going to @WorldPride2014 and want to win @PrismEventsInc passes from @StoliCAN! http://bit.ly/1vx7fyh #StoliWorldPride

Contest closes at 5:00pm PST, Tuesday, June 24, 2014. One random drawn winner will be announced on this blog post on or before Thursday, June 26, 2014. Prizes are as awarded, the contest winner cannot transfer tickets to another person, and must pick-up the tickets in person with a valid ID. Read the complete contest rules.

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This contest is now closed.

Congratulations Yvonne Murphy, you are the lucky winner of tickets to Prism World Pride events at World Pride 2014 in Toronto.

Thank you to everyone who entered by sharing on Facebook, twitter, and subscribing to HomoCulture.ca. Please keep watching for more contests coming soon.

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