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Exploring Bisexuality

Fiertre Montreal Pride Parade 2013

In the LGBT community, bisexuals are still misunderstood by some. There are people that don’t believe in bisexuality—to them, you like one or the other, not both. Sadly, there are people within the LGBT community that are just as closed off to the idea of bisexuality. They can be downright cruel to those who claim to love both genders, as if there is something wrong with that, which there isn’t.

The Kinsey Scale, developed by Alfred Kinsey, also known as the Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale, places people at various points between completely heterosexual, and completely homosexual—with bisexuality being in the middle. There are also more points on either side, but those three are the major pinpoints. Not all bisexuals are created equal. Two men can be bisexual, but one may favor a particular gender more than the other, while still liking both. Also just as possible is having a man/woman who likes both genders equally—meaning they don’t prefer one sex over another.

This leads to the question: why is it so important to place people in cookie-cutter categories? You can’t. An example—a man can claim to be entirely heterosexual, yet he occasionally receives blowjobs from a male friend in secret. So, in reality, he is not purely heterosexual; but it also doesn’t mean he’s gay. This is why the Kinsey Scale is so useful.

Instead of judging someone because you think bisexuality makes no sense—try thinking on the matter. If you are gay, you didn’t choose to be that way. And you know you can’t change. Why is it so hard to believe that some people are born liking both genders? It’s the same situation, only slightly different.

Where would you fall on the Kinsey Scale? Completely Heterosexual? Completely Homosexual? Bisexual? Or what about one of the smaller pinpoints that lay in between the big three? Are you a straight guy that has a girlfriend, but secretly masturbates to gay porn on occasion? Are you gay, but sometimes find yourself in bed with a man and a woman? Nothing in life is quite that simple, and sexual orientation is no exception.


Do gay’s still fall in love?

Two gay men kissingEveryone is different, and everyone has his or her own story. Our experiences make us the people who we are. Some good; some bad. Life is life. There are real and fake versions of love and every relationship isn’t perfect.

No matter how jaded they may be, don’t let them bring you down. Love is real and it does happen. There are people that will be there to bring you up, even in your lowest moment.

Will the right person find you? Don’t go searching for them. Let it happen naturally. You can’t force it. It will never work. You’d have better luck throwing change into a water fountain and hope for a dolphin to jump in your lap.

While not everyone has found love, they still believe in love, that that it self, is promising.

Of course, there are good and bad sides of falling in love. It can hurt. However, when you find that one special person, who finishes your sentences, encourage you to be your best, and help you in your time of need, then you know it’s true love. You’re one of the lucky ones!

It’s not always the looks of a model, millions of dollars, or whatever drives your emotional mind. The real love is when you can talk on the phone with someone, without saying a word, be absolutely content and enjoying the feeling. It’s at that moment you have found someone you are comfortable falling asleep with, your head on their chest, arm-in-arm.

Yes, gays really do fall in love. If it hasn’t happened to you yet, be patient. Your time will come.


Top 10 most challenging places to fuck this fall

Corn Maze

Sex can get routine and boring, real quick, real fast. Why not put you and some of your friends up for the ultimate fucking challenge. Here are the top 10 most challenging places to fuck this fall. How many of them will you be able to conquer?

  1. Corn maze at a family farm
  2. Drug store washroom
  3. In the center of a clothes rack at Target
  4. In a park wearing Halloween costumes
  5. The washroom at your best friends housewarming party
  6. In the back of a car at a drive-in movie
  7. Tucked away in a dark corner of a haunted house
  8. Miley Cyrus concert, because there’s nothing else to fucking do!
  9. After the traditional Sunday night dinner at your parents house
  10. In the Christmas tree aisle at Costco!

Is there a noteworthy place you’ve fucked this fall? Leave your story in the comments section below!


LGBT History Month Cocktail (Cosmopolitan) [Contest]

LGBT History Month Cocktail (Cosmopolitan)First celebrated in 1994, when high school teacher, Rodney Wilson, brought together a group of individuals and organizations to pay tribute to the history of gay rights and civil rights movements. The group, which included the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), selected October to align with National Coming Out Day on October 11.

National Coming Out Day was founded in 1988, to commemorate the first march in Washington, D.C., in 1979, where gay, lesbian and bisexuals marched for equal rights. Today, the day is celebrated with rallies, information sessions, local events, and parades across the United States.

LGBT History Month encourages honesty and openness about being lesbian, gay, bixsexual, or transgendered. On June 2, 2000, President Bill Clinton declared June 2000, Gay & Lesbian Pride Month, and President Barack Obama declared June 2009 as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Pride Month.

Widely celebrated across the United States, LGBT History Month is an important event to remember the struggles the gay community has faced, and serves as a reminder of the work that must continue to ensure equality, rights, and freedoms for all in the United States, and across the globe.

Canada does not officially celebrate LGBT History Month, however, it is observed. In the United Kingdom, LGBT History Month is recognized in February, which coincides with the abolition of Section 28 in 2005.

In honour of LGBT History Month, raise a glass of one of the most gay-friendly cocktails, the Cosmopolitan, and pay tribute to those who have stood up for equality, rights and freedoms, and take a personal pledge to do your part to ensure equality for all.

  • 2 oz Stolichnaya Vodka
  • ½ oz Triple Sec
  • ¾ oz Cranberry Juice
  • ½ oz Fresh Lime Juice

Fill a cocktail shaker half full of ice. Add all ingredients. Shake for 20 seconds, until the shaker begins to frost. Strain into a chilled martini glass. Garnish with a fresh orange peel twist.

Enter for a chance to win a Stolichnaya Vodka prize package including a Stoli Pride tshirt and barware

Contest

In honour of LGBT History Month, Stolichnaya Vodka, who is a big supporter of the LGBT community around the world, is giving HomoCulture.ca readers the opportunity to win a cool Stoli prize-package, including a Stoli Pride t-shirt and barware package.

To enter, leave a comment on this blog post, pledging what you will do to support LGBT equality.

For an additional entry, once you have left a comment on this blog post, tweet the following:

Learn about #LGBT History Month from @br_webb & @StoliCAN, and you could win a #Stoli prize pkg: http://bit.ly/1rT0W8w #HomoCultureHistory

Contest closes at 5:00pm PST, Friday, October 10, 2014. One random drawn winner will be announced on this blog post on or before Monday, October 13, 2014. Read the complete contest rules.

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This contest is now closed.

Congratulations Alexis Marcoux, you are the lucky winner of a Stoli Canada prize package from Homoculture.ca.

Thank you to everyone who entered by sharing on Facebook, twitter, and subscribing to HomoCulture.ca. Please keep watching for more contests coming soon.


Take a stand for change

LA Pride Parade

Bullying. Hatred. Racism. Sexism. Homophobia. These are struggles that many people in the LGBT community face every single day. Many gay individuals have battled with these issues, tormented with fear and sadness, just because they are gay.

In a recent video, Kristen touches on several issues that she has personally dealt with, similar issues that youth today face. Change takes time, and it can be scary for some people, but at some point, we need to turn the page and start a new chapter in history.

As a results of change, people are going to have to swallow their pride. Many of these people will be long gone, but there is a new generation who are teaching their children to be kind, accepting, diplomatic, open, and understanding.

We should be encouraging others to grow and develop to a more accepting society. Not just in the LGBT community, but all communities. We are all responsible to foster a world of love and tolerance, and to help others in their time of need.

The Human Rights Campaign (HRC), is an important organization working in the United States to help with the LGBT rights movement. While some progress has been made, there is still a lot of work that needs to be done, especially in the United States. Canada, and many other countries around the world, set prime examples of how equal rights should be, for all people, regardless or race, sex, religion, sexual orientation, creed, etc.

Suicide is the second leading cause of death amongst youth ages 10-24, LGBT youth are four times more likely to commit suicide, and questioning youth as high as three times more likely, compared to their heterosexual peers. Suicide is never the answer, but many youth are driven to that point because they haven’t had a positive network of friends, peers, and even resources to help them through their difficult time.

Everyone has a story. Some people have shared their story earlier than others. For those that are capable of sharing their story can help by showing today’s youth that they are not alone, and never will be, as long as they are in a safe, loving and trusted environment.

“Nothing will work unless you do.” – Maya Angelou


Your 30s are not your 20s: how to excel in this new phase

IMG_6483_smIf your 20s are the time to party hard, live large, and have an amazing time, your 30s are the time to start settling down and taking a longer term view of life. That doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy your 30s every bit as much as you did your 20s, but it does mean that your definition of fun may start to shift to better accommodate the things you need to do to be successful in this new phase of your life.

The first thing that you have to face in your 30s is your finances. A few people hit the big 3-0 with no debt to their name, but for most of us, it’s time to get our financial affairs in order. Pay down debt, be careful with your money, get a budget in place that you can live with, and make sure you’re saving for your retirement. You may have spent your 20s thinking you can do it later; later is now.

Next step? Get your health in order. Take care of your skin, your hair, your body. Get exercising, if you don’t already. Moderate the excesses of your 20s. Have a drink, party now and then, but expect that your body isn’t going to tolerate it, if you keep rocking the house down every single night. The thing about bodies is that they break down slowly, and over time. Slow and stop that process by taking care of yourself before the damage is there.

After that, build your family of choice. Don’t allow people in your life who don’t add value to your world. If they don’t respect and love you, stop tolerating their behavior. But the people who are worth it? Be good to them. Enjoy them, keep them close, and build those relationships.

Find focus. Your 20s are about exploration, about sampling everything; in your 30s, find your passion, and delve deep. It may be something you’ve been doing since you were a kid, or it may be something brand new, but it’s time to really put some roots into the thing that fills your heart with joy.

And finally, be kind to yourself. People are awful to themselves for many different reasons. In your 20s, it’s often possible to ignore it and keep going; for a lot of people, these sorts of issues come to a head in their 30s. Breathe through it, and make sure that you’re living your life in a way you’ll respect and be proud of when you hit 40.

 

 


10 Celebrities You Didn’t Know Were Gay

Johnathan Bennett shirtlessIt seems that even today the world is shocked when a celebrity comes out. The gossip tabloids go crazy, it makes news headlines, and twitter lights up like fireworks. It’s become an almost daily or weekly occurrence of a celebrity coming out. Here are 10 celebrities you didn’t know were gay:

Bryan Singer: Bryan has been around writing and directing major films for almost 20 years.  He has been the driving force behind such productions as Superman, The Apt Pupil, Valkyrie as well as the X-Men series.  Singer was also the director for select episodes of the TV drama HOUSE as well as Football Wives.

Raven- Symone: Raven has been a star since pretty much the beginning!  She starred in several successful television series including “Hangin’ with Mr. Cooper”, “The Cosby Show”, and “That’s so Raven”.  Also had roles in the popular movies “Dr. Dolittle as well as the second version of the series.  Raven has dabbled in pretty much everything.  Acting, singing, modeling and dancing.

Victor Garber: A true veteran in the acting world.  Victor has been in enough films to make us all lose count.  Roles in “Legally Blond”, “Titanic”, “First Wives Club” and “Argo” are some of the more notable.  Victor has been a very active contributing actor as well as a singer and his works span the spectrum.  Is is the epitome of a diverse artist.

Johnathan Bennett: Known for popular works such as “Mean Girls”, “Dukes of Hazzard” and a laundry list of other films and television production. Johnathan has definitely put in some hard work and paid his dues to Hollywood.  Still at only 32 years of age it is certain we can continue to expect more great things.

Sir Ian McKellen: Six Laurence Olivier Awards, a Tony Award, a Golden Globe Award, a Screen Actors Guild Award, a BIF Award, two Saturn Awards, four Drama Desk Awards and  two Critics’ Choice Awards. He has also received two Academy Award nominations, four BAFTA nominations and five Emmy Award nominations.  Widely known as one of the most talented British actor to have ever read a script.

David Hyde Pierce: Does anybody remember Frasier?  David was brilliant in the amazingly successful series of 90’s.  He has four Emmy awards to show for it.  Not too shabby.  David came out publicly in 2007 but his presence in film and television has been there since 1987.  Maybe not always the headlining name of the bill but should not be forgotten.  A truly classic star.

Kelly McGillis: With Golden Globe and BAFTA nominations, works in film and television nothing will ever top my memory of her role as “Charlie” in a quiet movie called “Top Gun”.  A somewhat epic love seen with a small time actor that goes by the name of Tom Cruise has got to be one of the most memorable scenes of the past few decades.  Either way this woman has made amazing contributions to her art and shows no signs of slowing up anytime soon.

Nathan Lane: Theatre, television, film, humanitarian work and awesome-ness. All things that can be associated with Nathan.  He has done it all not to mention doing it all as good if not better than anybody else as well.  An amazing man with amazing talent.  Nathan’s career has spanned almost four decades.  And if there were ever a question of greatness, there is only one word you need to know: “Birdcage”.

Cynthia Nixon: Do you need a lawyer?  The character of Miranda in the television series and movies “Sex in the City” was brought to life by this lovely woman.  Along with plenty of other roles throughout her career including work in “Marvin’s Room, “ER” and “Hannibal” Cynthia has built a family and is happily married, a mother and a cancer survivor.

Cary Grant: Grant’s career began in theatre in 1922 and went all the way up to 1966.  He was the definition of a “Hollywood Legend”.  Grant was married five time and was the father of one daughter.  Cary passed away in 1982 in Davenport, Iowa at the age of 82.  He is absolutely one of the first legends of the screen without a doubt.


Stolichnaya Vodka becomes proud sponsor of World Pride 2014 [Contest]

Stolichnaya Vodka Bottles

Gays love to drink their vodka-cran drinks! It’s one of the most widely consumed vodka beverages in the gay community. What better way to celebrate Pride Month and World Pride 2014 in Toronto than with fun and creative cocktails! This year, World Pride 2014 is pleased to announce a new partnership with Stolichnaya vodka, which will be proudly served at official events throughout the ten-day festival and celebration.

Let’s get one thing gay, Stolichnaya is not Russian vodka. The Stolichnaya vodka brand has a proud history dating back to the Czar Empire, was one of the first commercial vodkas in the world, and has won medals in spirit competitions around the world. Today, Stoli vodka is respected as a world-class premium vodka.

Today, Stolichnaya vodka is owned by SPI Group, also known as Spirit Group. Since 1991, SPI Group has owned right to produce, distribute and market Stolichnaya vodka around the world, excluding Russia. SPI Group is not allowed to import any Stolichnaya vodka into Russia. In fact, the controlling shareholder of SPI Group, Yuri Scheffler, is exiled from Russia. As of January 1, 2014, Stoli USA was created, when SPI took control of distribution and marketing in the United States, and in Canada, the contract was recently awarded to Mark Anthony Group.

A rainbow of Stoli vodka cocktails

SPI Group is responsible for the entire process of vodka production of Stolichnaya vodka from grain to glass. With full transparency, the company admits some ingredients, including the grain, which has been sourced from the same Russian-based farm for over 80 years, continues to this day. However, every step in the production process, including blending, filtering, bottling and shipping, right through to distribution is 100% owned and controlled by SPI Group.

SPI Group and Stolichnaya vodka have always been, and continues to be, a supporter of the LGBT community. The equal-opportunity employer supports gay pride events, festivals and events around the world, including Stoli Man, and now World Pride in Toronto. Stoli and SPI Group will continue to support other LGBT causes and events around the world; giving back to the community they truly believe in.

Prism World 2014

[Contest]

HomoCulture.ca and Stolichnaya Vodka want to send you and guest to the Prism World during World Pride in Toronto. Enter now for a chance to win a pair of weekend passes to Prism World including Collage, Bootcamp, Aqua Mega T-Dance, Main Event, Peep Show and Revival. These tickets have been sold out for months! Each ticket is valued at over $275!

To enter, leave a comment on this blog post on your favourite Stoli vodka cocktail.

For an additional entry, once you leave a comment on this blog post, tweet the following:

Hey @br_webb I’m going to @WorldPride2014 and want to win @PrismEventsInc passes from @StoliCAN! http://bit.ly/1vx7fyh #StoliWorldPride

Contest closes at 5:00pm PST, Tuesday, June 24, 2014. One random drawn winner will be announced on this blog post on or before Thursday, June 26, 2014. Prizes are as awarded, the contest winner cannot transfer tickets to another person, and must pick-up the tickets in person with a valid ID. Read the complete contest rules.

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This contest is now closed.

Congratulations Yvonne Murphy, you are the lucky winner of tickets to Prism World Pride events at World Pride 2014 in Toronto.

Thank you to everyone who entered by sharing on Facebook, twitter, and subscribing to HomoCulture.ca. Please keep watching for more contests coming soon.


Gay Men Wearing Heels on the Rise

Gay Men Wearing High Heels

“Girl these stilettos are killing me!”  

It’s a trend that’s happening all over. You might not be a part of it, but make no mistake, this is a movement this isn’t going away any time soon. It’s the growing trend of of the gay community deciding to rock a pair of heels to the club, instead of the usual go-to, Adidas or DC Shoes high tops. People are happy when they feel good, and even happier when they look and feel fabulous in a pair of heels.

There will be judgement. There always has been, and probably always will be. Such is life.

The real question is, how does that five inch Jimmy Choo red glossed heel feel when you walk in the door and stopped the entire room and turned heads. It’s call the Broke Neck Effect. As soon as people see the fabulous-ness swerve in the door, everyone will lose control of their joints and spill their cocktails because they will be focused on you!

If you want to blend in and be nonchalant, don’t! If you want to be yourself and make a statement being yourself, then you’re in the money! At the end of the day, what matter is how you feel and what you want to do. this is about your life and happiness. If what makes you happy is a t-shirt, jeans, sunglasses and Manolo Blahniks, then do it!

The rise in gay men wearing heels out and about will continue. They may not trying to be a drag queen or other themed ensemble, but they are doing what they like and feel comfortable in. The verdict is in, if you like it, then do it! What puts a smile on people’s faces is undoubtedly the best thing. Regardless of what any opposition may say. Keep it moving and hold your head high. Remember, you are being you and there’s nothing wrong with that at all.


Razberi Cosmo

Each colour in the rainbow pride flag has a specific meaning. Red represents life. The Razberi Comso is a tribute to life. Cheers to a safe and happy Pride month!

Stoli Razberi ComsoCaring for your neighbour, supporting local businesses, and working together are all common traits found in any community. But in the LGBT community, the bonds go much deeper. The queer community has bonded together for decades, whether it be to march for equal rights, support each other through the HIV/AIDS crisis, or to celebrate diversity and pride. Regardless of the theme, the gay community sticks together. From issues of same-sex marriage, adoption, and violence, advocates in the gay community have made life so much easier to today’s generations. You’re never alone in queer society; you’ll always have the safety and security from friends and be with your chosen family, through any situation life throws your way.

What does life mean to you?

  • 2 oz Stoli Razberi Vodka
  • 2/3 oz Triple Sec
  • 1 oz Cranberry Juice
  • ½ oz Lime Juice

Fill a martini shaker half full of ice. Add all ingredients. Shake for 20 seconds, until the shaker begins to frost. Strain into a chilled martini glass.

 


What to wear on a first date

What to wear on a first dateFor starters, lets be clear, what you wear on a first date is completely dependent on what kind of date you are going on. This is simple, common sense. There are wide ranges of first date options and the best bet is to try and dress accordingly based on the activities that will be involved.

Basically, you wouldn’t wear a tuxedo to play miniature golf nor would you step out with a tank top, shorts and flip flops when going to an upscale French restaurant.

There are tons of different first date ideas so it is impossible to cover every specific situation, however here are some basic go-to guidance of what to wear on a first date for the ultimate success:

  1. What is generally the goal of a first date? To get to a second one! It is an interview process in sorts. Above all, when choosing the attire for your date, be as true to yourself and your own personal style as you can while still being appropriate for the setting.
  2. Add your personal touches to things. You are on a first date for a reason. The other person saw something in you that sparked their interest. Go with that, but keep it simple and don’t go over the top.
  3. Casual dates such as the movies or a casual lunch or even something as creative as bowling. The outfit choice is simple: T-shirt, jeans and any kind of shoe. Very simple. Very easy.
  4. If the date is a nice dinner or a social event then try to dress it up a bit. Again, use common sense. Gauge you attire on where you will be.

Above all, don’t fake it. Be yourself. The ultimate essence of style: being you and owning it!


Three things to say (and not say!) when someone comes out

Two gay men kissingWhether you’re gay, straight, or in between, when someone comes out to you as gay, bi, or trans, it can be hard to know the right thing to say. If you keep a few simple things in mind, you can be supportive, and avoid hurting your friend.

Do:

  • Thank them for telling you. You may not know yet where your friend is on their coming out journey. You may be the very last person to know, or the very first, but either way, thanking them for telling you shows them that you value their honesty and trust.
  • Ask questions. Some people spit out the words “I’m really a woman,” and then have a gush of information to share; some people mutter “I’m gay,” and then seem to have nothing else to say. Gently asking polite, respectful questions can help your friend open up and talk about how they’re feeling. Try “Who else have you told so far?” or “Are you seeing anyone right now?” Avoid “Are you going to have surgery?” or “Who’s the man/woman in your relationship?”
  • Offer assistance. Especially if the person coming out to you is young, it’s important to make sure that they have a safe home, school, and work environment. If those things are all settled, and your friend feels safe, they may still want or need help finding resources to answer their questions about what all this means; if their environment is not safe, they might really need that help, and may feel overwhelmed by the process of trying to get it. In that case, anything you can do is not just good friendship, it may be life-saving. Remember that LGBT youth are at the greatest risk for suicide of all teenagers.

Do Not:

  • Tell anyone else. Simply put, this is no one’s journey but the person who is coming out. Unless they explicitly ask you to, it is absolutely not okay for you to reveal anything about their sexual or gender identity to anyone. This is another reason why it’s good to know who already knows; this way, you’re not accidentally spilling the beans.
  • Tolerate jokes and bullying, whether your friend is around or not. One of the most awkward situations can be when someone is in the process of coming out, and someone not in the know makes a trans- or homophobic joke or comment. In the light of the emotional storm of coming out, your friend may not be able to stand up for themselves right now; a good friend will call the joker on their phobia, and not make their friend either do it, or endure it silently. A simple, “Hey, that’s not okay,” is enough. Don’t do it in such a way that it outs your friend.
  • Use this as an excuse to validate yourself. This is not the time to tell your friend about all the gay people you know, or how your cousin’s uncle’s friend’s roommate’s daughter is trans, or any of the other well-meaning comments that try to tell your friend how accepting you are. These comments come from a good emotional place, but it’s not what your friend needs. They wouldn’t be opening up to you if they didn’t trust your acceptance, especially in the early phases of coming out.

Be honored that your friend has chosen to come out to you. It shows that they trust you, respect you, and consider you an important part of their lives. Make sure that you deserve it.


5 tips for straight girls in gay bars

5 tips for straight girls in gay bars

The rumours are true. Straight people are frequenting gay bars like the trend is going out of style. We’re welcome – and often encouraged – to share drinks and strut through these establishments, while keeping in mind that there are ‘rules’ to be familiar with. For us girls in particular, it’s important to know how to behave and act in your favourite gay clubs.

Here to help save the day, below are 5 tips for straight girls in gay bars.

1. You won’t get your tab covered, so check your attitude at the door.

Playing with your hair and batting your eyelashes won’t work here. Although your local watering hole might know you by name and the cute brunette at the next table could be covering the bill for your favourite bottle of wine, this is a whole new ball game. Unless your bestie is treating you for the night, bring some cash.

2. Be the wing-man (or wing-woman) for the night.

No one likes a cockblocker. If you’re heading to your local gay bar, you’re the wing-man (or wing-woman) tonight. Embrace it. Don’t be a drag keeping your guy from a potential connection by cornering him at the bar or keeping him as yours on the dance floor. If you see love blossoming, get out of the way.

3. If you’re seeking attention, you won’t get it here.

Though you might be used to head turns while you walk through the door of your club next door, I hate to break it to you – but you won’t get any action tonight. Though you might have spent hours on that blow-out and carefully selected those heels last Friday night, this isn’t the place to get attention. Enjoy a night out with your girls (or best gay friend).

4. Don’t order a cosmo.

We’re not Sex and the City. Put down your martini glass and order a gin and tonic or vodka and soda. Enough said.

5. There are some places you should really just avoid.

Although your best gay friends really do love it when you join them at the bar, there are some establishments we need to avoid. These are usually the ones that are frequented late-night with one intention. There’s no place for us at bars that are named after male genetalia.

Next time you’re responsible for selecting the next bar to frequent, keep these five rules handy. Become familiar with being a wing-woman and don’t forget to pack some cash in your clutch. Enjoy your night out ;)

 


Calgary’s LGBT students offered $500 Acts of Greatness Bursary

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2013 Calgary Pride Parade

For most kids, high school is a difficult time. They are faced with pressures to achieve good grades, battle peer pressure, manage complicated friendships, and try to find a circle of like-minded people to fit in with, whether it be on the student council, the basketball team, earth action group, or year book committee. Admit it or not, all students deal with bullying too. But what makes it even more complicated, is when a student struggles with their sexual orientation.

For youth who have come to understand their sexual orientation and are openly gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered, it can be challenging. They’ve likely faced difficulties in the classroom, on the playground, amongst friends, and even at home with family members. Youth who come out are resilient and vibrant individuals with strong spirits and full of colourful spirit.

Founded in January 2014, Acts of Greatness is on a mission to support LGBT youth in the Calgary School District, with a new program designed to encourage ongoing education for queer students. In partnership with Education Matters, the two organizations have created a new awards program, recognizing students who identify or participate within the sexual and gender minority community.

“Our awards help support sexual and gender minority students achieve their full academic and leadership potential,” said Yiorgos Boudouris, Acts of Greatness Founder and CEO.

One award of $500 will be offered to a lucky student in the Calgary School District. The award is open to all senior high school students in Calgary, of any sexual or gender minority, who will be continuing on in post-secondary education. The applicant must also demonstrate strong leadership skills and have had a positive impact on the community.

Applications for the Acts of Greatness bursary are open until May 30, 2014.


The first gay beach pool party, Xposed, opens this weekend in Las Vegas

Xposed SaturGay Beach Pool Party Cabana

Xposed SaturGays Beach Pool PartyThe gays always love to make a splash, and this Saturday, March 29, they will be big waves as the newly renovated Tropicana Las Vegas welcomes the LGBT community for the first ever, gay pool party on the Las Vegas strip!

Having recently undergone a $200 million renovation, the Tropicana Las Vegas is proudly flinging open their doors and inviting the LGBT community to experience fun in the sun at what will be one of the hottest gay pool parties.

Every Saturday from 11am – 6pm, Xposed pool parties will feature some of North America’s top DJ talent, hot Go Go boys, and fabulous entertainment. Kicking off the season on March 29 will be DJ Ryan Kenney and DJ Kidd Madonny, and throughout the summer other headlining DJ’s will include DJ Hector Fonseca and DJ Roland Belmares.

The pool party will feature two different environments, one for the fun and flirty, and the other for the cool, calm, and collected.

General admission to the Xposed pool party is $20 USD per person. Trop Plus Players Club and Las Vegas locals with a Trop Plus card get in free before 1pm. Day beds can be reserved for $200 USD, and cabanas for $400 USD.

Tropicana Las Vegas Pools


Newsflash! 8 Dumb Questions You Should Stop Asking Gay Guys

Questions you should never ask a gay guy

Listen up, straights. The gay community has had enough of your inconsiderate, stereotypical questions. It’s time to let you in on eight questions you’re always asking your gay friends that you really shouldn’t.

Question 1: How did you know you were gay?

How did you know you weren’t gay? Gotcha.

Question 2: Were you born gay, or did you choose to like other guys?

To be fair, it’s not uncommon to meet a gay man who doesn’t think he was born gay. However, just because he wasn’t born gay doesn’t mean he chose being gay or who to like. At what point in your life did you choose to be straight? Oh, you were born that way? Sound familiar? It should.

Question 3: Who’s the woman in the relationship?

Pay a gay couple to take off their clothes if you want to know which one has a vagina. The answer might surprise you and so might the size of their dicks.

Question 4: Are you worried about getting HIV?

Gay men are about as worried about getting HIV as straight men and women are worried about getting cancer. We all know it’s there, we all have access to information on how to prevent it, and no one’s day is ruined by the thought of getting cancer or HIV. Asking this question is like any man asking a woman if she’s worried about getting pregnant. Both are an outcome of sex.

Question 5: Does it bother you that you’ll never have kids?

Does it bother you that gay men can have kids as easily as you can? Actually, gay men can have kids a lot easier. Gay parents don’t get fat. They don’t have to change their diets. They don’t have a lot of expensive medical bills depending on which route they go. Try asking your gay friend if he is interested in having kids before asking how he feels about never having them.

Question 6: Will you take me shopping?

A gay man with nothing better to do will say yes. A gay man with a life outside of your wardrobe will charge by the hour.

Question 7: You’re not trying to hit on me, are you?

Every gay man has been asked this question or something similar by a straight man. It’s practically a part of gay culture, but it’d be nice if it weren’t. Think about it, straight men. How would you feel if every lesbian you met thought you were hitting on her simply because you’re a straight guy? Unless the goal is to get into another guy’s pants, ignore the big gay elephant in the room. It’s only there because you make it be. The average gay man has as much logic, respectfulness, and decency as the average straight man.

Question 8: Do you like to wear women’s clothes?

Are you asking a gay man, a transgendered woman, or a drag queen? Notice how the italicized words are directly related to gender and can tell you what type of clothes the person you’re talking to enjoys wearing. This question is intrusive, period. Even if a gay guy does wear a dress from time to time, why do you think it’s okay to ask what he keeps hidden in his closet? You can guess he’s hiding the same thing you are: sex toys.

And for the gays: what are the most annoying questions you’ve had? Leave your comments below so our straight allies can have a better grasp of which questions they obviously should not be asking.


10 reasons why you should go clubbing with a gay guy

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If you don’t have any plans this Saturday night, you should probably hit up one of your gay friends. Gay guys love to go out and have a great time. They are always the life of the party, the social butterflies of the room, know where to get the best drinks in town and know the hot spot for the night. Need more convincing? Here are 10 reasons why you should go clubbing with a gay guy:

  1. He’ll go through your closet and make sure you look amazing
  2. There will be pre-drinking, either at someone’s house or a funky lounge
  3. They know all the hot clubs with the best music, drinks and entertainment
  4. You can wait in line together at the coat check, bar, and women’s washroom
  5. Gay guys know how to dance
  6. You’ll be surrounded by hot people all night long
  7. You’ll be introduced to all the drag queens, go-go dancers and performers at the club
  8. The gays love their vodka and they can drink, drink, drink!
  9. At the end of the night there’s always a stop for some fast food even through you’re all on a diet
  10. You’ll get home safely because he’ll put you into a cab or walk you home at the end of the night

Why do you love hanging out with your gay friends? Leave your comments below.


No Fun City to “Party for Life”

Vancouver's Davie VillageFor years Vancouver has had the dubious distinction of being nicknamed No Fun City. Metro Vancouver, home to over two million residents, earned the notorious reputation after the City of Vancouver enforced harsh bylaws and cancelled major events based on a few major incidents that caused millions of dollars in damage.

Despite 2011 Stanley Cup playoffs riots, when the Vancouver Canucks lost to the Boston Bruins, the Vancouver and the Province of British Columbia continue to push forward on initiatives to bring life, culture and community programs to the socially-depressed city. Upcoming changes to liquor laws in British Columbia and a New Years Eve celebration for 2014 are both in the works.

Fortunately for Vancouver, the LGBT community has flourished throughout the years as a shining beacon on how to organize and fun major events that raise awareness and raise funds for important causes. The cities largest outdoor festival and gathering, Vancouver Pride, attracts almost 250,000 people, and is popular with not only the LGBT community, but also families and destination guests.

Well, the LGBT community is at it again. On Saturday, February 1, many businesses are opening their doors and welcoming the community with the Party of Life. For one night Davie Village businesses will be working together to help the Vancouver Friends for Life Society, a Vancouver West End organization that has helped thousands of people living with HIV/AIDS and cancer.

The Friends for Life House, Little Sisters Bookstore and participating Davie Street businesses will be selling $10 wristbands. These special wrist bands will give participants the VIP treatment and help benefit people in the community that require much needed support. Participating businesses will be offering wristband wearers everything from VIP line access to free cover (subject to capacity).

Participating businesses include Celebrities Nightclub, The Junction, Pumpjack Pub, The Oasis, and The FountainHead.

Let’s bring fun back to Vancouver!


Merry Christmas

Brian the Elf Merry Christmas and happy holidays! 2013 has been another exciting year and I would like to personally thank my readers for reading, commenting and sharing my stories over the past year, and to all the valuable partners which helped to make it all happen.

As one of North America’s leading gay lifestyle and entertainment guides, I’m passionate about sharing pivotal moments in life and stories that are of interest to you. This past year I’ve taken my readers along on my travels to off-the-wall destinations, kept you in shape with helpful health and fitness advice, and shared stories from role models and icons of the LGBT community. And more than a few of you have certainly enjoyed some of the lip-smacking cocktails I’ve posted in Cocktail of the Week.

This year HomoCulture.ca was awarded one of the top LGBT blogs in Canada from the Canadian weblog awards, an independent program dedicated to finding the best Canadian bloggers.

There are already plenty of great things lined up for 2014. Thank you again for helping make HomoCulture.ca part of your life to help discover special, life-defining moments.

Sincerely,

Brian

Brian Webb
Owner, Editor-in-Chief
HomoCulture.ca
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Testing HIV Positive. “What if? What now?”

Corey Ouellet

HIV. It’s one of the biggest fears in the gay community. It has been since the early 1980’s, when AIDS was discovered and it became an epidemic. For over three decades millions of dollars has been poured into education and resources. While HIV/AIDS is no longer on the dramatic rise that it once was, there is still no cure. Unfortunately, not enough men get tested regularly to know their status.

“I had a friend who worked at Qmunity Resource Centre,” said 30 year old Vancouver resident, Corey Ouellet. Qmunity is a Vancouver-based not-for-profit resource centre providing support to the LGBT community across British Columbia. “I was taking him out for dinner and he had a couple of things to finish up before we left. Knowing there was a testing centre down the hall, I used the time to get tested.”

While his sexual encounters were adventurous, he made a point to always carry condoms with him. However, there were times in his past that the heat of the moment overtook logic and reason.

“I was diligent about getting tested every six to nine months,” said Corey, who self-admits he was extremely sexually active throughout his life. “I frequented bathhouses and cruised online sites.”

At the time, Corey has no idea how this simple blood test would change his life, forever.

“I didn’t even consider the chance of testing positive,” Corey said, remembering the day he went to get his test results.  Corey would learn at that moment that he was HIV positive.

“My first reaction was slightly alarming to the nurse,” Corey exclaimed. “I said ‘Thank God!’” His reaction wasn’t based on receiving news he was HIV positive. Corey had been suffering from severe tiredness for several months and wasn’t able to receive the medical care he required. “It was a sigh of relief knowing that I would now have some of the top medical minds at my reach to determine the cause of this fatigue.”

After receiving his test results Corey first action was to call a close friend who he knew was HIV positive. He had a lot of questions on his mind and wanted to get some real answers from a trusted source.

“I needed to tell someone,” said Corey, knowing full-well that his friend had gone through the exact same thing and would be a good starting point for this new chapter of his life. “Emotionally, at first, I was numb and I felt disconnected. My mind was racing with questions of, What if? and What now?

Corey would later learn that his fatigue was the result of a life-threatening platelet count, which was unrelated to him being HIV positive.

“I have been blessed with meeting some amazing survivors of HIV/AIDS and I have become more in touch with myself and my body,” Corey explained. “I have a nearly perfect bill-of-health and my outlook on life has changed for the better.”

While there is no cure for HIV/AIDS today, and it is impossible to turn back time. Three years after learning he is HIV positive, Corey is still the same friendly and out-going person he has always been and remains up-beat. He is passionate about learning more about the subject, raising awareness for others, encouraging others to practice safe sex, sharing his story, and most importantly, offering advice to others to practice safer sex.

“Educate yourself and be aware of what you are getting into,” says Corey. “There are safe ways to explore sexuality and condoms are available within a couple of blocks of wherever you might find yourself. Understand the risks and if you are engaged in sexual activity, get tested regularly to protect yourself and your partner. The risks involved in sexual activity are not just limited to homosexuals, these transmissions occur amongst all people.”


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